Blackseraphine

 My sister, the monumental asshole.

We were talking about something and I mentioned I saw a video yesterday about a woman who tried to buy a house twice.

The first one is "Pasalo"- in property terms, it's an arrangement where the buyer assumes the original owner's responsibility in paying for the property. So the buyer pays a lump sum to the owner, and pays for for the remainder of payments the original owner is supposed to pay. Because most of these arrangements are done without proper legal documentation, a lot of these arrangements have issues and may not be legally permissible.

In the case of the woman in the video, it turned out that the spouse of the person who went into the arrangement with them was also on the property title but didn't know about the arrangement. So the arrangement wasn't legal, and the woman/buyer was forced to vacate the property. All the money they had already paid? They couldn't get it back. I could just imagine the asshole who 'sold' them the house: "Oh, you paid for our payments? Thank you".  -_-

And I remembered my uncle's property. It was the same type of arrangement. But this was done decades ago when these types of arrangements weren't popular yet. My uncle thought he was smart enough to ask the person for a written agreement, but he was so anti-government, he didn't put it through the proper legal channels. 

When he died, my dad found out how messy the documents were. And he was sorting it out with my sister and it basically became my sister's responsibility. It's been decades and it still hasn't been resolved. So when I saw this video, I thought my uncle's property was in the same boat. Basically, we might not be able to recover it and everything he paid for would be gone.

Sabi ko "Naalala ko yung kay Tito. Wala na talaga yun. Thank you na lang yun. Di na mahanapan ng paraan."

She said, "Anong 'thank you'?"

I said, "Hindi na mahanapan ng paraan."

She said with this condescending look on her face, "E di kung gusto mo e di ikaw humanap ng paraan."

I was stunned. She misunderstood. Without even thinking it through, she immediately thought I was criticizing her because she was the one who was in charge of getting the documents of the property fixed and she hasn't worked on it for years. I remember that she let it slip that she borrowed money from our house's funds to use on getting those documents fixed. I just can't remember how much: 150,000? 180,000? And I think that's why she immediately got upset, she thinks she's being attacked because although she would never admit it, she knows that money is gone– "thank you".

She's sensitive to any and all things she thinks is criticism of her and she's quick to turn it around against me. 

Sabi ko, "Bakit ako? E kakasabi ko nga na hindi mahanapan ng paraan? Ako nga mismo hindi ko maisipan ng paraan. Kakasabi ko nga 'Di mahanapan ng paraan' so bakit ako ang hahanap ng paraan? Ang salbahe mo, inaaway mo pa ako!"

She realized she messed up and started to do small talk about my credit card, telling me to open up the app to see if we've reached the spending requirement to get the annual fees waived for life. When I barely reacted she started showing me Youtube shorts. I know what she's doing. She's trying to deflect from what she did. I ignored her videos and reacted as minimally as possible.

She walked out. She's a victim in her own mind, so she's probably lamenting how much her sister was "mean to her". Zero accountability whatsoever.